For a few weeks now I have been bathing Mother on my own on Sundays. Starting yesterday, I added Saturdays to it as well. Dad won't have help for her on Saturdays again for a few weeks, so I told him last week I would come Saturdays and Sundays; it's only an hour away, and he needs me.
Dad stands beside her bed and directs me on which pads go under her and how to situate them. Today, I bathed her in twenty minutes; I am getting better. Today was also a first in that I "changed" her without Dad's help. Somehow, she tends to slide down into the "valley" of the bed as she calls it. Dad has trouble pulling her up due to arthritis, so when I am there, I hoist her up when she needs it. She also likes to lie on her side for awhile, so I roll her over and prop the pillow behind her.
When I go, I try to give him as much respite from the physical demands as possible. He always goes out to the store and/or to get us lunch, and after we eat, he takes a nap in his recliner. I sit in the dining room where Mother's bed is, and we chat some. Today, she told me to go take a nap as well, so I went into Matthew's old bedroom and slept for about 45 minutes. We all napped.
We don't know what life will bring. I never imagined I would be changing my mother, applying hot rags to her hemorrhoids, or bathing her. However, it must be done. A month ago I never thought I could do any of these things. It is obedience....simple obedience. "Honor your father and mother...."