Monday, July 8, 2013

Marriage: from God's View, Part 2: Being Equally Yoked

2 Corinthians 6:14...."Do not be mismatched with unbelievers.  For what partnership is there between righteousness and lawlessness?"

Paul is speaking here about keeping company with nonbelievers, but it can certainly be applied to marriage.  A believer should not marry an unbeliever...period.  In fact, I will go one step further and say a believer should not even date an unbeliever.  What would be the point?  Certainly a believer would not think she could change/convert the unbeliever.  She should not be "unequally yoked" with an unbeliever, or even the wrong christian. . She should wait for the "one" God has planned for her.  Let's take a closer look at what the "yolking" means first.

"The word "yoke" means a coupling as when two oxen are coupled or yoked together by a pulling beam to do work such as plowing a field or pulling a wagon.  Therefore you can not just put any old ox under the yoke, it has to be the ox that the yoke was fashioned for or the yoke won't fit properly...the oxen won't be able to work together because the yoke will not be level...the oxen will be mismatched. The yoking of oxen speaks to the yoke builders choosing of the team and fashioning the yoke for that specific team so that they can perform the task that he called them to accomplish. You have to be under the yoke yourself first then wait for the chosen team member that the yoke was already designed for...perfect match by the yoke builder himself.".....God!

I stated earlier that a believer should wait for the one God has planned for her.....if He wants her to

marry.  While I have known one couple who met through a christian singles website and married, I would not recommend that.  If the God of the universe brought Eve to Adam, can't He handle bringing two people together today?  When we try to arrange/force things, that is when disaster strikes. God tells us in Isaiah 55:8, "My ways are not your ways," and the way of God is foolishness to man.

Our culture tells us we have the "right" to something when we want it...instant gratification.  God has His own timetable, and He is not concerned with ours.  If he brought Adam and Eve together, surely He can handle us today.  He is the same God.

While this is not biblical, I personally think a woman (or man) should ask God for one who can help him or her advance the Kingdom.  I think a marriage should be two people who can do more for God's kingdom here on earth "together" than they can apart.

Next in the series: Submission